My arm is hurting, no actually tingling. My heart is having heart palpitations. I realize my body is acting out on my obsessive worry about my daughter and her family. They are fine. My daughter spoke with me over the phone yesterday. It was maybe 5 sentences long between us but she assured me that all is well. So what’s the problem? She didn’t call today and today is her day off.
Now when these thoughts start racing through my mind I have to step back and ask myself, “what was I doing at her age? Did I want to talk to my mom every other day? Well the answer is a big fat NO!!!
I at that age was sailing with my husband on the weekends Did I call my Mom to let her know I was back safe and sound? No!!! I would not have felt any autonomy had I called her. She was the furthest thing from my mind. Nor did she call me to make sure I was alive. She had faith that I was careful with my life and would return unharmed. She had faith. Yup I do remember her praying at night before she fell asleep. She had faith that all her children would be safe, loved and happy.
And now it’s my turn to pray. I pray for my heart to be full of love. I pray for my mind to be at peace. I pray for my daughter and her family to be safe, loved and happy. I pray to a higher power, universe, God , Spirit. …. Who ever is out there protecting us.
Folks parenting adults children isn’t for the weak. But if you are feeling vulnerable, you might want to meditate or take a moment to find tranquility in the garden. You may want to paint, crochet. You may want to write and you may want to pray.
And my arm is fine now my mind is at peace, now that I wrote out my worry. The only thing hurting is my wrist from carpal tunnel. But I’ll take that pain over a heart attack.
Goodnight!
Sincerely,
Joann Cohen Jan2022